Vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say, ‘This is me, and I’m interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more important, all that I am not.
Romance, is something we ALL muse over or have been enamoured by at some point of our lives or another, romance and love and by love I obviously mean romantic love. Now 17, this is something I’ve given a lot of thought, most of the time subconsciously, the definition of romance has been changing on a regular basis for me – still does.
When I was thirteen, the the entire concept of romance eluded me, I found answers in books, in movies, chick lit and sometimes was brave enough to experiment.
However, four years have passed since my first kiss and I’m no longer captivated by the concept of ‘romance’ that prevails now. When I put forward my views, I come across as old fashioned, or orthodox, but the truth is far from it.
I’ve always been open about every aspect, every attitude and have tried my best not to be judgmental, but you see, when it comes to expecting the same bit from others, the fail.
This is a rant over the current state of teenage affairs, It’s a piece of my mind, a small slice of teen life.
I’ve traveled four years from my very first kiss (not to mention it was pretty clumsy and one of my knees did NOT bend up in the air) and I’ve realised a couple of things and these observations are not novel, merely reinforcements of what’s been said over and over and over again.
I’ve discovered that love is temperamental and matures over time and goes through various phases. the passion is there to stay for only this long and then what is required is a healthy companionship.
after the initial bout of fierce passion it cools down to adjustments, understanding and companionship, and if a couple cannot rekindle the romance at this point of time, the relationship usually breaks. A major reason why there are so many cases of divorce and break ups these days.
I see I’ve been ranting, well, the thing is I’ve been trying to understand what I want to seek in my significant other, Sensibility, Intelligence and most importantly acceptance. People have a weird tendency to try and change a person when they are together, that’s sad because they forget that the precise reason why they had chosen their partner in the first place was the reason they are like they are, with the imperfections.
phew, too much ranting. finally coming to the point (ducks behind the chair) I think I’m on very much on the right track in finding someone like that. yeah that’s it.